|March 21, 2014 8:30 AM – 5:30
Adults healing from child abuse
The Sixth + Annual It Happens to Boys
Doral Desert Princess Hotel,
Palm Springs, Calif.
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|Trauma, Addiction, Abuse Issues
Healing for Men and Women
Adults Healing from Child Abuse
First time in Los Angeles
Our 6th Annual It Happens to Boys
February 28, March 1, 2014
Conference 8:30AM to 5:30PM
The Sixth Annual It Happens to Boys
The Pasadena Hilton
168 South Los Robles Avenue
Pasadena, Calif. 91101
$250.00 for both days, includes lunch
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|If you are a Man who has been
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Cathy and Randy Boyd
|Who Should Attend?
Partners of Survivors.
Men and Women
Author of Seven inspirational
books, Dave Pelzer reminds us
that regardless of our past, we can
still become useful members of
society and lead productive lives.
Come and meet the man who
makes a difference in so many
lives, A Child Called It has been on
the New York Times Best Seller list
for over 7 years. Dave Pelzer is
the first author to have four #1
Best Sellers in the same year.
John Lee, pioneer in the Men’s
Movement and best selling
author of his book, The Flying
Boy will be speaking about the
Half Lived Life. Overcoming
passivity and rediscovering your
This one of a kind workshop
addresses the ever-increasing
problems passivity presents to
individuals and families..
Judy Crane is the founder of the
Refuge Treatment Center in Florida,
where thousands of people have been
returned to productive lives. Judy
shares: “ Traumatic experiences have a
wide range of effects on the brain
including hypertrophy of the amyagdala
causing emotional dysregulation,
atrophy of the hippocampus causing
short term memory problems.
Increasing research has shown that
single events can alter the wiring of the
Judy will help us understand how to
identify when an individual’s brain has
been affected by a traumatic event or
multiple events. She will share the
latest research regarding the effects of
trauma on the brain and methods
available for the resolution of trauma
and brain healing.
Jerry Moe, Director of the Children’s
Programs for the Betty Ford Center
has been changing the lives of
children living in addicted families for
years. With his gentle humor and
heartfelt words, children respond to
Jerry like the Pied Piper. Jerry gives
\children tools to speak up and talk
about their feelings.
Jerry will share stories of recovery,
behaviors to watch for and some
healing techniques for children and
Cindy Carter. PhD. is a dean at Fresno
Pacific. University. Dr. Carter has
been teaching and leading workshops
on psychodrama for many years. She is
a very talented therapist, storyteller,
and weaver of archetypes. Her
workshop, Playback Theater, will take
an audience member’s story and
transform it into a visual myth. Allowed
to be a witness to a piece of his/her
own life, the audience member is
often transformed. This workshop will
move you and touch your soul.
Randy and Cathy Boyd, founders of
Courageous Healers focus on
relationships in recovery. Randy
and Cathy have been helping
those in recovery for many years.
Randy is one of the original
Courageous Healers for the It
Happens to Boys Group.
Allen Berger, Ph.D.
is an internationally recognized expert in Gestalt-
Experiential Psychotherapy and in the science of
recovery from addiction. He wrote Hazelden’s
popular recovery mainstay 12 Stupid Things that
Mess Up Recovery (2008) and a book for Hazelden
on emotional sobriety, 12 Smart Things to do When
the Booze and Drugs are Gone (2010). His latest
book is entitled 12 Hidden Rewards of Making
Dr. Berger will be presenting a workshop on self-
hate, one of the most common causes for relapse
that often goes undiagnosed. He will take listeners
through a revealing discussion of this deadly and
insidious process. Step to address this deadly foe
are also offered.
Harry L. Haroutunian MD, known by all
his patients as “Dr. Harry,” is an
internationally known speaker on the
topics of addictive disease and its
treatment. Dr. Harry has developed the
“Recovery 101” lecture series on topics
of addiction medicine, recovery issues,
communication skills and relapse
prevention. He is the author of BEING
SOBER and co-author of “HIJACKING
THE BRAIN." Dr. Harry will share his
knowledge about the link between
abuse and addiction.
Harry L. Haroutunian MD,
Patrick Carnes. PhD, is the author of Out of
the Shadows: Understanding Sexual
Addiction (1983), the first work designed to
help addicts deal with their sexual
compulsions, and to examine the tangled
web of trauma, love, addictive sex, hate,
and fear often found in family
relationships. He pioneered the founding
of the International Institute for Trauma and
This workshop will help dispel myths and
misunderstandings about the nature of
sexual addiction and explore available
(Tsalagi/Cherokee/Wyandot) is the
founder of Waya Nv No Hi (Wolf
Road) Healing the Circle Workshops
that offer healing from unresolved
grief, loss and intergenerational
trauma, especially for native
peoples. Traditional healthy
cultures have been made sick by
the anger, guilt, shame and fear,
passed on from generation to
generation. This creates a culture
that is shame-based, which
contributes to the behavioral,
emotional, physical and spiritual
issues that challenge wellness.
Kelly Lewallen, LMFT
Kelly Lewallen, LMFT is a licensed marriage,
family therapist in private practices in Palm
Desert and La Jolla, California and current
president of the Desert Chapter of the
California Association of Marriage and
Family Therapists. Kelly will discuss the use
of EMDR from a practicing clinician’s point
of view. She will also show a demonstration
of the process. “The audience should gain
a rudimentary understanding of EMDR and
understand it's effectiveness as a tool in
treating survivors of childhood sexual
Dr. Sally Diane, LMFT is a licensed
individual, marriage and family
psychotherapist in private practice n
La Quinta, Calif. Dr. Diane works with
clients struggling with issues such as
addiction, grief and loss, childhood
trauma and marital conflicts. She
works with terminally ill patients and
Dr. Diane will discuss her study of the
deaf culture and the deeper
ramifications that being deaf in a
hearing culture. As with any
disenfranchised group the deaf are at
high risk of abuse.
Dr. Jonathan Young’s Claiming Our
Resilience seminar shows that
strength can be drawn from stories
about characters in difficult
experiences. Familiar tales from
myth and folklore reveal the patterns
in our own lives and connect us with
overlooked options and inner
resources. This presentation looks
at stories of survivors, to discuss
finding courage for recovery.
Discern the shaping influence of life
stories. Recognize psychological
patterns reflected in dangerous
adventures. Use methods of
engaging the imagination to claim
Dr. Young, is a Psychologist,
storyteller, and writer . He assisted
Joseph Campbell and was the
Founding Curator of the Joseph
Campbell Library at Pacifica
graduate Institute in Santa Barbara,
where he teaches.
His website is folkstory.com
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Jerry will share stories of
recovery, behaviors to
watch for and lead the
audience in healing
techniques for children and
Allen Berger, Ph.D
Dr. Allen Berger is an internationally
recognized expert in
Gestalt- Experiential Psychotherapy and
in the science of recovery from addiction.
He wrote Hazelden’s popular recovery
mainstay 12 Stupid Things that Mess Up
Recovery (2008) His latest book focuses
on the hidden rewards of making amends.
It’s titled, 12 Hidden Rewards of Making
Amends (2013).Dr. Berger will be
presenting a workshop on Self-Hate, one
of the most common causes for relapse
that often goes undiagnosed. Dr Berger
takes the listener through a revealing
discussion of this deadly and insidious
process. Step to address this deadly foe
are also offered.
Dan Griffin’s groundbreaking
book, A Man’s Way through the
Twelve Steps, is the first trauma-
informed book to take a holistic
look at men’s sobriety. He also
co-authored Helping Men
Recover, the first
curriculum for men with national
expert, Dr. Stephanie
Covington, and Rick Dauer,
Clinical Director, River Ridge
Treatment Center. Griffin was
awarded the President’s Award
in 2006 for leadership in the
addiction and recovery field by
MARRCH, the state’s
association of addiction
Tonya Meeks. MFT received her MA in Counseling
Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute and her BA
in Performance from New College of California. Tonya
Meeks, LMFT specializes in Addiction, Dual Diagnosis,
and Complex Trauma. Tonya possesses immense
passion for performance creating two one-woman
shows: Open Eyes and Flying Standby. Tonya’s
academic thesis, a memoir: Flying Standby: Sojourns
with a Devouring Gypsy Mother demonstrated the
catharsis of telling the story of her narcissistically
wounded and addicted
Flying Standby - be prepared to take off!
Scott Johnson, a licensed
Addictions Counselor working
for the last 28 years in the
service of helping families and
children, he has published two
books in Japan. Scott’s
workshop will help men heal.
`Our It Happens to Boys Group has been speaking at recovery centers, middle schools, and high schools, school
district offices for counselors and teachers and conferences for six years. We offer workshops for clients and staff.
Learning about sexual abuse is an important and overlooked issue for so many. It can lead to using drugs and
alcohol to numb the pain and shame or for people already in recovery can lead to relapse. Learning about the effects
of abuse, the signs to look for, and how to start the healing process has lead to many teens and adults coming
forward and speaking up, and then the healing can begin.
If you would like our group to come and speak to your center, school or at your conference please give us a call.
Our Speakers: Scott Smith, Carol Teitelbaum, MFT, Randy Boyd, David Price and Daniel Marquez
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Jonathan Young, Ph,D
Dr. Sally Diane
It Happens To Boys, Too
by Carol Teitelbaum
One in four boys will be sexually abused this year and they won’t tell a soul.
Instead, they will repress their feelings, try to forget the abuse never happened
and simply move on.
But these boys won’t really move on. Emotionally they will stay frozen in the
space of the abuse while going through the motions of an ordinary life. They
may physically grow, excel in certain areas and even do a good job at feigning
normality but eventually their lives will start to exhibit the inevitable signs of
the unresolved abuse brought about through conscious and subconscious
triggers. This may manifest as problems with intimate relationships, rage at
authority, an inability to follow through, lowered self esteem, self-medication
through addiction to drugs and alcohol, reliance on porn and other deviant
measures for arousal, self destructive tendencies and severe depression.
Why don’t boys tell? Society as a whole hasn’t done a very good job at making
the male sex feel comfortable with sharing their feelings in general let alone the
ones that make them feel raw, exposed and scared. Boys are told from a very
early age to be “manly” not “wimpy” and unfortunately learn that showing
emotions and pain coincide with the latter. When abused by women, some boys
are afraid to tell because they think other boys will make fun of them for not
liking it. Or they are afraid other boys will mock them for complaining about it.
Alternatively, if boys are abused by men, they fear their peers will now think
they are gay. It the abused boy is gay, he will dread being told by others that he
indeed wanted it or asked for it. Even though this type of abuse is about gaining
power over someone else and not sexual identity, the shame and
embarrassment that oftentimes ensues around sexuality in young people also
causes them to remain tight-lipped. In all of these cases, it’s an unfortunate
truth that boys prefer to keep the abuse inside and pretend it never occurred.
It’s our job as professionals in the healing fields to destroy these myths and
create new dialogues where boys can feel safe not only to share but also to
participate in their own healing. We need to educate our teachers and parents
about this epidemic and arm them with tools on not only teaching boys early
that manhood contains both strong masculinity and authentic vulnerability but
that it’s okay and essential to talk about these things that happen to them
without feeling ashamed. We need to create dialogues that support this new
direction in schools and communities so that we can reach these boys while
they are young, not merely waiting to address the problems that come out later
in life when they’ve already become accustomed to the jails and rehab centers.
Let’s teach them how to start up the hill from the bottom rather than waiting
until they fall off and hit rock bottom.
The 6th Annual “It Happens to Boys, Too” Conference February 28 – March 1,
8:30 a.m. to 5:30 p.m.
Los Angeles, CA
$250 registration for both days includes lunch
This annual event held by Creative Change Conferences brings together
speakers, authors, survivors, therapists, social workers and healers to address
the subject of male childhood abuse.
Speakers include author of “A Child Called It” Dave Pelzer, author of “The
Flying Boy” John Lee, author of “Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual
Addiction” Dr. Patrick Carnes, author of “A Man’s Way Through the Twelve
Steps” Dan Griffin, Director of the Children’s Programs for the Betty Ford Center
Jerry Moe, founder of the Refuge Treatment Center Judy Crane, founder of
Playback Theater Dr. Cindy Carter, Hazelden author Dr. Allen Berger; Dr. Harry
L. Haroutunian, Dr. Jonathan Young, Dr. Sally Diane, Tonya Meeks, MFT, Kelly
Lewallen, LMFT, founder of Waya Nv No Hi Sparrow Goudey, addictions
counselor Scott Johnson, and survivors Scott Smith, Randy Boyd, David Price
and Daniel Marquez.
All are welcome to attend including mental health professionals, survivors,
those in recovery, students, teachers, parents, and members of the community.
Continuing Education Credits are available.
For more information, www.creativechangeconferences.com or email Carol
Teitelbaum at email@example.com.